Rediscover You

Finding yourself again after kids, husbands, and other life events doesn't have to end in anxiety and depression. As a matter of fact it can be one of the best times of your life. It’s easy to feel lost and like purpose has escaped you because you have spent the last 20 years pleasing other people. You have been the team mom. The supportive wife. The go to task manager at work and the first one to say hello when they ask who will lead the prayer group. 

It’s kinda what women do, it's what many of us were taught. You play what your friends want to play because that is being nice. You do what your oldest or youngest siblings want to do but birth order is a topic for another day. 

One day I went to see a therapist after I was feeling like who am I without these kids and husband, without this nursing license, without all the service work. She asked me one question that put me on this journey of discovering who I am at my core. And I want to ask you that question today: 

What are 10 things that you like to do that are just for you? That is not attached to service, kids, spouse, work. 

When she gave me this assignment, I just cried because I had only 3 things written on my paper and it was really hard for me to come up with those 3 things. But it was a start. And I have worked hard to discover my passions and hobbies. 

I did that by trying new things alone. Even if I was scared out of my mind. Even if being alone felt weird. Even when people were watching (or so I felt). 

If you find yourself struggling to complete this task. Take some time and think about things from your childhood, what was fun? What did you dream about? 

Carve out some time in your schedule to try something new once a week. 

Leave a comment about how this blog impacted your day. Share some of the things on your list and give other women some ideas of things to try.