Role of the Mom
As moms we give our kids the tools needed to dream, live a life of abundance, survive if need but thrive most importantly.
Our job is not to caudle or to make life easy for them. Where in their 80 plus years will it be easy (especially past 18)?
Our job is to love them and teach them how to love properly.
Our job is to exhibit a undeniable ability to get it done. A trust and belief in self.
From early on like newborns kids are taught to self soothe. And that skill carries over to adult hood.
Grit is necessary!
Discipline is necessary!
Love is necessary!
What you taught your baby/toddler... you continue to teach the same lessons at each stage of development. They are just recognized and presented different.
Like the saying new level new devil...
But here's the challenge:
Some of those things we didn't get from our moms or another experience tainted how we perceived things and so we love our kids from our hurt instead of from our whole.
We protect in a way that doesn't really prepare them for life.
They build emotional aspects that don't set them up for success.
We want them to feel a certain way so we avoid the adversity or intervene for them.
On the developmental screening for a kid newborn to 5 yrs old there's a section for problem solving. When life starts getting hard many of us take over and don't allow them to continue to build the muscle of figuring shit out!
We never want them to feel left out so we over extend our budgets and schedules to our own exhaustion and stress.
But it can change ladies.
If you want a more whole child you have to become a more whole mom. And that's done with 3 things.
1. Learning who you are. When asked who are you if your answer is mom to (insert your kids name or wife to insert your spouse/partners name) you haven't answered the question. The question is who are you not what do you do.
2. Get comfortable in who you are. Being accepting of the person you are good and bad is the gateway to whole hearts and clear minds. It's really the secret sauce!!! If you know why you do what you do, you'll be more confident in it.
3. Tell people what you need to be the best you. Your ability to communicate the most intimate parts of yourself with assertion and clarity will determine outcomes you didn't imagine. Say what you mean and mean what you say... its not just something cute to throw out there.
All 3 of these work together for your good, yes I'm paraphrasing scripture 🤣 (Romans 8:28). But it's true!!!
As a mom who loves her kids immeasurably and wants the best outcomes for them...Take a minute to do some self reflection.
1. Where would you rank yourself in each of these areas? (1-5)
2. Are there specifics in any area that you can think of?
Share your thoughts. I want to know if it resonates. I'll be sure to respond.
❤️
Shaunda
